15 Nov

4 Ways Parents Can Help Their Tween or Teen

1. Talk with your kids: Keep an open dialogue about the changes that are happening to them physically, emotionally and socially. Don’t accuse but rather ask open-ended questions that will illicit thoughtful discussion by both parties. Ask your child if they have any questions you can answer for them. Don’t tease, but instead, normalize the changes. If you’re not sure how to answer a question your child is asking, try looking up the answer together. Or talk to a professional together to get the answer. If your child doesn’t like to talk, ask 1 or 2 open-ended questions and build on that when you can. Normalizing changes and situations can be very soothing for children, even if they act like they don’t need it or don’t care.

Here’s one great resource: 5 Secrets for Communicating with Teenagers
By Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC from EmpoweringParents.com.

2. Schedule family time together: Even for an hour or two. Quality is the key, not quantity. Keep routines the same and make yourself available to offer help, even if it’s driving places or hiring a tutor for a subject. Teens are launching developmentally. That means they leave (in a variety of ways) and return. This process is similar to a bird learning to fly out of the nest. Most people think that’s when a parent should leave their child alone but actually the opposite is true. Be available and spend time with your child. Stay engaged and find a way to let them know you care and are there. They need to know you are present in the relationship and that home is still a safe place to return to so they can keep trying to launch. And remember, they still need your support, even when they pushing you away. Don’t take it personally.

More about this: 3 Tips to Help Nourish the Family by Karen Atkinson on EtainLifeCoaching.com.

3. Monitor social media: Check out who is talking to whom and how your child feels about this dialogue. Ask questions to get your child’s perspective. Don’t make it about not trusting them. Tell them it’s your job to make sure everything is ok socially and to monitor it to some extent. Tell them that you care and this is important to you. That’s normal for a parent to do. If there’s a problem, listen to the problem your child is identifying and help find a solution. Ask questions. All sorts of things happen with “posting” these days including comments and pictures. What does your child post? What kinds of messages and pictures do they receive back from others? Use these situations as learning opportunities for your child. And be patient. Our generations didn’t have to deal with all of these dynamics. This is new territory for everyone.

Here’s an example: Are sitcoms harmful to children? Do they teach sassy, disrespectful behavior? What are some alternatives? from CommonSenseMedia.org.

4. Moderate the amount of violence your child gets exposed to:
Between TV, phones, iPads/Tablets, gaming consoles and computers, kids are seeing images at a record level. The amount of time children spend in front of a screen has increased, as well as the exposure to violence. What they see matters to development and how the brain processes information. Moderate what you can. Pick your battles and stand by them. It’s important to teach children boundaries, and it’s ok to limit or have them choose what they can and can’t see. These exercises are modeling for them how they will some day set boundaries for themselves. These exercises also teach them how to make choices. There is a reason why games and moves are rated. And watch little brother or sister. They can be adversely influenced and exposed at a much younger age simply because they have older siblings. It’s easy to let go in this area and checkout. But don’t. It matters.

“A 2010 review by psychologist Craig A. Anderson and others concluded that “the evidence strongly suggests that exposure to violent video games is a causal risk factor for increased aggressive behavior, aggressive cognition, and aggressive affect and for decreased empathy and prosocial behavior.” Anderson’s earlier research showed that playing violent video games could increase a person’s aggressive thoughts, feelings and behavior both in laboratory settings and in daily life. “One major conclusion from this and other research on violent entertainment media is that content matters,” says Anderson.

Here’s one reason why: Does exposure to violent movies or video games make kids more aggressive? from CommonSenseMedia.org

Resources:

5 Secrets for Communicating with Teenagers
By Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC from EmpoweringParents.com.

How Parents Can Improve Communication with Teenagers by Dr. Steven Richfield on HealthyPlace.com.

The Parents Role on TeachingSexualHealth.ca.

Teenagers and communication on BetterHealth.vic.gov.au.

16 Apps and Websites Kids Are Heading to After Facebook on CommonSenseMedia.org.

10 Most Violent Video Games of 2016 (and What to Play Instead) by Jeff Haynes on CommonSenseMedia.org.

Is it OK to let my kid play Minecraft for hours? on CommonSenseMedia.org.

Violence in the Media (Psychologists Study Potential Harmful Effects) on the APA.org.

Violence on TV and How It Can Affect Your Children on the Huffingtonpost.com.

08 Nov

4 Tips for Starting a New Business

Get clear on your idea: What is it you want to offer people? Is it a product or service? How passionate are you about this idea? How do you visualize things playing out? Some say this is one of the most important and critical steps in the process of becoming an entrepreneur. Clarity of vision is key. How can you gain more clarity around this idea?

Check this Tony Robbins video out, The Magic Of Visualization (Law of Attraction.)

Why do you want to offer this product or service? It’s good to explore inside yourself what is driving you because that will be the energy that drives your own internal sustainability and determination. For example: my background is in mental health and I love helping people. Life coaching puts me in a dynamic of working with people and it allows me to have my own business and bring in income without a glass ceiling attached. Coaching is fun for me, as well as uplifting and I can still help others. I also get to create my business model and add things to it (like writing and doing presentations:^) These things all align with my goals and values. But I still have to get clear on who I want to support and why. I have to make choices all the time. I have to constantly re-evaluate this and make sure this is still what I want to do and make sure I am on track. I give myself space to think about these things regularly.

Identify your client: Who are they? What product or service can they benefit from? Is there a need? Are you setting up your business around the needs of your client or your own desires? Which will work best in the market place?

Take a look at this guide from Business TutsPlus, How to Identify Profitable Clients: A Step-by-Step Guide.

Surveymonkey.com is one great tool you can utilize to gather information about your prospective clients and their real needs. You can also go directly to the source and talk to those you want to sell you. What do they think of the idea? What are they looking for?

Set up a business plan: These are things that will not only be listed on paper but will require action steps (can you add some of these to your vision board?) Ask yourself hard questions, for example: how much borrowing is needed for your initial investment strategy? And is it sustainable? Does your plan offer a “warm up” period to cushion the time it might take to find clients and generate income?

From Entrepreneur.com see, How to Start a Business With (Almost) No Money,  for great ideas in this area.

Can you be an “unconventional entrepreneur” see, How To Start A Business With Only $100 In The Bank, from Dan Schawbel of Forbes.com.

Get a support system in place: find people that are on your team and will support you during this time. That’s the “team win” not “team let me tell why you shouldn’t do this”

Team. Vision and clarity also require support. Where can you find it? Check out 7 Strategies to Build Your Startup Support System from BizJournals.com for more information.

Support yourself in this process. Sometimes starting a business can be like running a marathon. Things don’t always go the way we plan. Funding or income changes, timelines change, life happens. Patience and resilience will go a long way. If you don’t have it, who will? If things are going the way you thought, maybe updating your business plan or hiring an expert in that area might help you move a few steps forward. Allow creativity to come in for alternative solutions. And don’t give up!

Read from one of the experts, Dr Wayne Dyer, about How to Create Life Balance Between Dreams and Habits.


Resources:

The Reason Vision Boards Work and How to Make One

DreamItAlive.com

ShaktiGawain.com

5 Mistakes to Avoid When Starting Your First Business

The Top 5 Mistakes People Make When Starting a Business

10 Steps to Starting a Business

ChrisGuillebeau.com

How to Start a Business with only 100 in the Bank

How to Identify Profitable Clients: A Step-by-Step Guide

Best Ways to Identify Your Ideal Clients & Customers

Ziglar.com

Write Your Business Plan

How to Create Life Balance Between Dreams and Habits

Tony Robbins: The Magic Of Visualization (Law of Attraction) Video

How To Start A Business – The Mega Guide That Makes It Easy

 

05 Nov

A Quote for November

“Every journey begins with the first step of articulating the intention, and then becoming the intention.”
― Bryant McGill, Voice of Reason

Copyright 2019 Etain Services.